To some extent, all of us are captives to our past. There are moments and memories that limit what we say, think, and do. For the most part, the boundaries that grow from our past allows us to get on with our lives. We discover that we can choose our boundaries and limitations by learning from our experience. This is the first step toward self-discipline.
However, there are some moments and memories that set boundaries that are not really chosen. They are imposed! A painful memory can prevent us from reaching out to some people or exploring some parts of our lives. Difficult memories, especially those that lay beneath our consciousness can prevent us from choosing to what to say, do, or think. If they remain unexamined, these boundaries will make us captive to unseen “jailers.”
There is one irrefutable fact, our past cannot be changed. But, we do not have to be lifelong victims of that past. At some point we have to accept that what happened, happened! By taking responsibility for our past and learning from it we can begin the process of liberation and begin to move on!
If you are not in control of your boundaries and tend to blame your parents or significant events in your past, I encourage you to seek the freedom that is yours just because you are alive. Begin to liberate yourself from the chains of oppression by getting to know yourself and allowing yourself to learn from and move on from your past. Become free enough to live in your present so that your future unfolds as it should.
However, there are some moments and memories that set boundaries that are not really chosen. They are imposed! A painful memory can prevent us from reaching out to some people or exploring some parts of our lives. Difficult memories, especially those that lay beneath our consciousness can prevent us from choosing to what to say, do, or think. If they remain unexamined, these boundaries will make us captive to unseen “jailers.”
There is one irrefutable fact, our past cannot be changed. But, we do not have to be lifelong victims of that past. At some point we have to accept that what happened, happened! By taking responsibility for our past and learning from it we can begin the process of liberation and begin to move on!
If you are not in control of your boundaries and tend to blame your parents or significant events in your past, I encourage you to seek the freedom that is yours just because you are alive. Begin to liberate yourself from the chains of oppression by getting to know yourself and allowing yourself to learn from and move on from your past. Become free enough to live in your present so that your future unfolds as it should.
Tip - Mapping Your Life
My sailing and boating friends tend to look at life as a journey through a body of water with shallow shoals, challenging rapids, or mysterious storms and currents. How have you managed the shoals and storms during your life’s journey?
Spend some time laying out a map of your life, identifying those events and memories that seem most influential. Recognize the lines of thoughts and insights that tend to grow out of them and connect them. Allow your autobiography to appear on your life map. If there are mysterious gaps or missing passages of time, these may indicate memories to be explored and uncovered.
Self-knowledge, self-exploration is the greatest journey anyone can make. The reward is a better relationship with yourself and the world you share with the rest of us. Happy sailing!
Spend some time laying out a map of your life, identifying those events and memories that seem most influential. Recognize the lines of thoughts and insights that tend to grow out of them and connect them. Allow your autobiography to appear on your life map. If there are mysterious gaps or missing passages of time, these may indicate memories to be explored and uncovered.
Self-knowledge, self-exploration is the greatest journey anyone can make. The reward is a better relationship with yourself and the world you share with the rest of us. Happy sailing!
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