The big self, the “I”, sees itself as part of something bigger than the self. It recognizes connections and influences beyond the control of the self. The big self is able to admit that there is such a thing as luck or destiny, depending on your faith. It allows us to relax and engage where we can and step back when necessary. The big self lets go of the feeling that our lives depend solely on how we react in this or that situation. It lives in a present that is rich with influences and opportunities beyond our ability to know or discern in advance. The big self gives us the capacity to celebrate and engage surprises and challenges.
When we find ourselves experiencing anxiety because we are overthinking our situation, it is time to step back and gain a wider perspective from the big self. In doing so we can proceed without becoming mired in the mud of the “me”, the little self. By seeing our lives through the big self, we discover that it is not all about me. It is really all about us!
Tip -- Stepping Back while Moving forward
- Foster Gratitude by remembering that we did not get to this place by ourselves. Remember those who have helped you along the way.
- Open our senses so that we can see and hear that we are not alone in this journey.
- Accept the limits of our understanding so that we can embrace, with humility, who we are, where we are, and where we want to go.
By leaning into the future using these three steps, we can see the broader landscape. This removes our anxiety of the uncertainty and allows us to move forward, reassured that we, and our friends, can deal with whatever problems may arise.